To my friends
I wrote this post a month ago on my previous blog
Hi friend,
We have not spoken to each other for a long time. When you said that we would meet each other more often in life, I imagined a close friendship. I did not think we would not speak for years. Yet I trust that we are still friends somehow. That's why I write this letter.
I know you were busy with other people and other things. Perhaps a love affair. I can earn income there. I myself always had the good idea that you should keep your friends, even if you are busy with the love of your life. I thought that easily while I was in a long-distance relationship and later living in Nepal where being together is rare before marriage. It is now nine months after our wedding day and I just start to crawl out of the newly-wed shell. That is to say, until now I was especially busy getting used to housekeeping, work in the church, our wedding in the Netherlands and studying.
At least, those are my truth-based excuses. To put it more honestly: I was very dependent. Being married does not mean doing everything together. It is good to do things together. Certainly. And giving your life to the other means self-sacrifice. Of course. But I confused that (and I feel that I am not the only one) with forgetting and underestimating yourself. Maybe we do it unconsciously. In the married months I slowly came to this discovery. God loves me as I am. Why do not I love myself as I am?
Of course I felt self-conscious and thought I knew what I stand for and what I want. But in retrospect, I had no idea. Through advice from experts via e-mail, other videos and examples, I learned that love starts with you. (Hmm indeed ... Improve the world, start with yourself, right? ;)) And I'm not there yet. It only starts. I now do things for myself. Treat myself occasionally. Read the Bible in the sun. Practice a song while cooking. I am excited to meet friends and girlfriends and have a lot of calling and chatting. I want to use my talents. And the beauty is that my other half is completely upside down. I do not have to do anything to win his love. He is now following me. And he can not put the finger on the change for the better. :) This blog post is also a result of the change. Simply a bit of reflective writing.
Well ... simply ... no. With a good reason. I remembered you. So long ago that I spoke to you. It were incredibly beautiful times together. Now we no longer speak to each other. But I'm going to see you. We may be living far. But I'll send you a message. And I will give you this letter. I'm doing well. Really good. I hope it goes well with you too. And that you have joy in who you are, that you develop yourself and live your vision, follow your calling. I hope to hear from you how God has blessed you.
Greetings from your friend,
Arilinde
Hi friend,
We have not spoken to each other for a long time. When you said that we would meet each other more often in life, I imagined a close friendship. I did not think we would not speak for years. Yet I trust that we are still friends somehow. That's why I write this letter.
I know you were busy with other people and other things. Perhaps a love affair. I can earn income there. I myself always had the good idea that you should keep your friends, even if you are busy with the love of your life. I thought that easily while I was in a long-distance relationship and later living in Nepal where being together is rare before marriage. It is now nine months after our wedding day and I just start to crawl out of the newly-wed shell. That is to say, until now I was especially busy getting used to housekeeping, work in the church, our wedding in the Netherlands and studying.
At least, those are my truth-based excuses. To put it more honestly: I was very dependent. Being married does not mean doing everything together. It is good to do things together. Certainly. And giving your life to the other means self-sacrifice. Of course. But I confused that (and I feel that I am not the only one) with forgetting and underestimating yourself. Maybe we do it unconsciously. In the married months I slowly came to this discovery. God loves me as I am. Why do not I love myself as I am?
Of course I felt self-conscious and thought I knew what I stand for and what I want. But in retrospect, I had no idea. Through advice from experts via e-mail, other videos and examples, I learned that love starts with you. (Hmm indeed ... Improve the world, start with yourself, right? ;)) And I'm not there yet. It only starts. I now do things for myself. Treat myself occasionally. Read the Bible in the sun. Practice a song while cooking. I am excited to meet friends and girlfriends and have a lot of calling and chatting. I want to use my talents. And the beauty is that my other half is completely upside down. I do not have to do anything to win his love. He is now following me. And he can not put the finger on the change for the better. :) This blog post is also a result of the change. Simply a bit of reflective writing.
Well ... simply ... no. With a good reason. I remembered you. So long ago that I spoke to you. It were incredibly beautiful times together. Now we no longer speak to each other. But I'm going to see you. We may be living far. But I'll send you a message. And I will give you this letter. I'm doing well. Really good. I hope it goes well with you too. And that you have joy in who you are, that you develop yourself and live your vision, follow your calling. I hope to hear from you how God has blessed you.
Greetings from your friend,
Arilinde
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